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Grief and Loss

Life seemed to be going great. It was like living with high definition vision and stellar graphics. Once a loss happens, it’s like experiencing life in black and white. It seems like life will never have that high definition quality again, because the color was taken away when you lost something or someone really important to you. So, how do I get the color and high definition back in my life? Together, we will create a bridge to get you back to where you want to be and regain peace and direction after a loss.


We experience grief and loss in multiple ways such as:

  • Death of a classmate or colleague
  • Death of a pet, friend or family member
  • Death of your favorite celebrity/idol
  • Serious illness of a loved one or loss of one’s own health
  • Relationship breakup
  • Moving to a new home, state or country
  • Graduating from school
  • Loss of financial security
  • Being involved in a divorce in any way
  • Fighting with friends and not being able to make up
  • Losing or changing a job
  • Losing your spirituality, important ideas, or dreams that really mattered to you

Some of the most common emotional experiences that come with grief and loss are modeled by Kubler-Ross stages of Grief. Although it has set stages, it’s very common to experience them in a different order.

Denial

Trying to avoid the inevitable

  • It can’t be!
  • This isn’t happening
  • Everything is okay
  • I don’t need any help

Feeling avoidance, confusion, fear, numbness and blame


Anger

Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotions

  • Why is this happening?
  • How can this happen to me?
  • This isn’t fair!
  • Who did this? Who is to blame?

Feeling frustration, anxiety, irritation, embarrassment, shame


Bargaining

Seeking in vain for a way out

  • Okay, let me just try this first!
  • Take me instead God!
  • I’d do anything for a few more days with them
  • Just allow me to see my children grow up

Reaching out to others, desire to tell one’s story, struggle to find meaning for what has happened


Depression

Final realization of the inevitable

  • Withdrawal, crying and grieving
  • What’s the point?
  • Why even bother to hope, now?
  • I having nothing to live for now.

Overwhelmed, blahs, lack of energy, helplessness


Acceptance

Finally finding the way forward

  • A sense of peace comes
  • It all happens for a reason
  • I can’t change what happened
  • It’s going to be okay

Exploring options, a new plan in place